By now I hope we can all agree that Valentine’s Day is, well, a little bit silly.
The last time I stressed out over this alleged holiday was in fifth grade, when the printer ran out of ink in the middle of printing cards for my classmates.
The bad news is, dating always comes with a certain amount of BS, no matter what your size.
You think others will react negatively and think you’re weird for talking to them. After faking confidence enough, you pick up that others are responding differently and even treating you better.For example, one of my best friends usually asks something along the lines of, “Wouldn’t they think you’re weird? Over time, you actually begin to feel genuine confidence as a result and it becomes a loop.To do this, I want you to practice approaching and striking up conversation with at least 5 strangers a day. That’s one approach to building a social life, a topic we’ve covered before.It can be as simple as you want as you’re starting out.If you feel like your emotional wellbeing is suffering, you can book an appointment with your GP.
Feelings of anxiety can also be linked to having a lack of confidence - to find out more about this check out our page on anxiety.Back in middle school, my heart would begin to beat faster and faster when I knew my name would be called for “popcorn reading.” If you don’t know what that is, it is basically a classroom taking turns reading passages from a book. What if puberty wasn’t kind and decided to make my pitch higher in the middle of a sentence? ” Hell, I was afraid to order food at Mc Donalds by myself at one point because I was scared of what people think! ” Her smile grew wider as she shouts back, “Coffee Bean! For example, ordering a coffee with a smile, eye contact, and tall posture will usually be met with a more welcoming barista.This fear of having others hear my own voice transitioned into another problem that I find common in a lot of people, the fear of talking to others (especially strangers.) You probably have this fear for the same reasons as most others. ” I smile, nod my head, and say thanks as we split ways. If you were to order with absolutely zero confidence and low self-esteem, their feedback would be very different.The internet is full of stories about women being horrifically fat-shamed or harassed on dating sites, and yes, those stories need to be told. And at a certain point, I think they can become inadvertent scare tactics, frightening plus-sized women out of the dating pool.So, I reached out to Marie Southard Ospina, journalist, style blogger, and beloved bad-ass of the body positive movement. Did she fear she was going to be bothered by a loser? Here is what’s really going on in people’s heads when you enter their lives (no matter how briefly.) “Is this person exciting?