While your standard D-bag is typically not well-liked, sociopaths actually exhibit fantastic interpersonal skills that win people over.
People are mysteriously drawn to them, even when they're not good-looking, said Dr.
They'll often target people who seem vulnerable or insecure and feed them lines like "you must be a model" or "you must work someplace really cool." As one patient explained to Nance, "I try to pay attention to what makes her feel special, and then I try to produce that thing."As the relationship progresses, sociopaths have perfect excuses for everything that goes wrong.Nance has had several patients who were dating sociopaths, and almost all have told her, "At first, I thought this was too good to be true."From a sociopath's perspective, other people are just codes to be cracked.In other words, a jerk might lie to you because they're too cowardly to tell you the truth, but a sociopath will do it just to see if they can get away with it.It's not that most sales representatives are sociopaths, said Nance, but you will see a disproportionate amount of them in professions that involve verbal persuasion, such as sales, law, the media and politics.They'll often use their persuasive skills to talk others into sex, and even their pickup lines can get a bit too personal.
Sociopaths rarely retain the people in their lives, said Strohman.
Nicki Nance, who has worked with many sociopaths during her four-decade career as a licensed mental health counselor, in a phone interview. It's easy to fall for sociopaths since they're so charismatic — and they have no problem exploiting that. "If I would say 'would you ever get in a car with somebody you didn't know?
' most people would say 'of course not,' but he had a way to lure people right in," she said.
"They have this odd calmness."This happens because psychopaths are completely disconnected, Strohman explained. They just do what they want." Before you even reach the stage where you're trying to assess a date's sociopathy, Nance said there are ways to avoid getting entangled with them in the first place.
Confidence and caution are two sociopath repellers, since they prey on partners who are insecure enough to fall for their lines.
Psychopaths make up about one percent of the general population (as in, not in a mental institution or jail) and most of them aren’t serial killers.